Considering Moving an Elderly Relative into Your Home?

Are you contemplating welcoming an elderly relative into your home? At Vermont Aged Care, we understand that many residents who join us have spent years living with family first. That’s why we’d like to share some useful tips if you’re exploring this arrangement.

Practicalities to Consider

Thoughtful planning is essential. Factors like your loved one’s age, physical and mental health, and your current living situation all play a role. If they’re active and in good health, the transition may be smooth. If they have more intensive needs, extra preparations will be necessary.

Start by having an open, friendly conversation. Communication can ease concerns and help both of you understand each other's needs. Explain why you feel this move is a good idea, and encourage them to share their reasons as well. Once you’re aligned, you can move on to practical considerations.

For example, is your home suitable for an elderly family member? Could minor modifications make it more accessible, or would a larger or more adaptable home be a better choice? Adjustments might include rearranging bedrooms, perhaps having children share a room to make space. A ground-floor room is ideal to avoid stairs, and it’s important to involve your children in these discussions to foster a welcoming environment.

Respecting Personal Space

It’s essential to bring over personal belongings to create familiarity and comfort. Consider including their bed, favorite chair, and treasured items like books, photos, or music. Be sure to install handrails in the bathroom, ensure clear paths, and leave nightlights on to reduce the risk of falls. Attending to medication and dietary needs is also important, and involving the whole family can show them they’re truly welcomed.

Discussing Finances

It’s wise to address finances early on, even if it feels awkward. Daily living costs are real, and planning for shared expenses can prevent future misunderstandings. Reviewing essential documents such as Wills, Powers of Attorney, and any legal or banking records is also a good step. Reassure them that you’re here to help.

Benefits to the Family

Welcoming an elderly relative can enrich family life. For children, it might be the only opportunity to build a deep bond with their grandparent, hear family stories, or learn new skills. They may share experiences like gardening, crafts, or even just sharing hobbies and memories that reinforce family ties. Older relatives often bring unique knowledge—whether it’s making jam, knitting, or teaching carpentry—that can lead to joyful family interactions.

This arrangement echoes how families lived for centuries, sharing the joys and responsibilities of life together. Embracing this time with an elderly loved one fosters togetherness that goes beyond what modern conveniences can offer.

Preparation Goes a Long Way

In conclusion, good communication, planning, and a positive attitude can make this transition a rewarding experience for everyone. The experience will leave a lasting example for younger generations about how families support each other, creating memories that last for generations.

This blog is intended to offer general advice. For personalised guidance, please consult your family GP, or for professional support for residential aged care, feel free to contact Vermont Aged Care.